Monday, September 2, 2013

Soul Food Monday

I never realized how important it is to nourish my soul just as much as I nourish my body.  Feeding my soul with warmth, positivity, and love is so crucial to my well being and relationships.

"You have to grow from the inside out.  None can teach you, none can make you spiritual.  There is no other teacher but your own soul."
-Swami Vivenkananda

I have come to realize that you can not make another person- be it a spouse, child, friend, or lover happy unless you learn to make yourself happy.  It took me many years to figure this out.  I learned that surrounding myself with a quantity of people didn't make me happy... I had to surround myself with quality people.  I learned that having a job that pays well and has good benefits didn't make me happy if I was only serving commercialism.  I also learned that relationships won't make me happy unless they are fruitful, respectful relationships where both parties are willing to put in equal parts work.

I have learned that happiness has to come from within myself.  I have to decide what brings me joy and focus upon those things. 
“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.” -Elizabeth Gilbert

My babies (my boys will always be my babies even though they are:  16, 13, and 8) bring such joy to my life.  Watching them grow and make wise, giving decisions makes me realize that I have raised them well and they will be just fine once they leave the nest.  Just a couple of days ago, we were at the grocery store and there was a homeless man standing on the corner with a sign.  The sign read, "Anything helps... food, water, I am not asking for money."  Noah and his girlfriend very quickly asked me to pull over and Noah gave the gentleman all of the money he had left in his wallet.  The gentleman was so appreciative and Noah was smiling ear to ear because he had done something for another man- a man in desperate need.  Being able to witness this action warmed my heart and made me so proud.

Writing makes me happy.  Good, bad, or ugly I am going to continue to write.  I can cleanse my soul just by putting my thoughts out on paper (or keyboard).  I feel so free when I am able to write, journal, doodle... just get my thoughts out.  It's like meditation to me.
“Write while the heat is in you. … The writer who postpones the recording of his thoughts uses an iron which has cooled to burn a hole with.” -Henry David Thoreau

I have also learned that taking time to myself is perfectly acceptable.  It does not make me a bad mother or woman- in fact, it improves upon my skills as a mother and woman because I have taken some time to care for myself.  I will not be frustrated and tired or overwhelmed because I have not taken some "alone" time to deal with my emotions.  I try to take at least 30 minutes a day to do something for me and only me.  Sometimes it is giving myself a facial or reading a book, sometimes it is writing or taking photographs at the beach but this time helps me to regroup and organize myself so that I can focus upon my daily tasks.

Everybody needs to find what makes them happy.  Don't look to another person, a job, or a monetary possession for this happiness... look within.
“Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.” -Brian L Weiss


  1. You've picked up a lot of wisdom for one so young!

  2. I totally agree that taking some time for yourself actually makes you a better person, a better mother... some women forget this and think it is selfish, it isn't... we all need to have some time just for ourselves. Mine is writing and walking, they rejuvenate me:)

  3. This post is so inspirational!! Thank you for sharing it. I agree I need a little "soul food" most Mondays.

  4. Great, beautiful post, love the last quote. Thanks for linking up!

    ~SimplyyMayra :)