Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Break the Cycle

How often do you compliment yourself?

How often do you look in the mirror and are happy with what you see?

How often do you call yourself beautiful?

How did we allow this to happen?  How did this phenomenon of self hate begin and how do we stop it?

I am deeply saddened by the way that women perceive themselves today.  I know so many women who can not tell me something positive about themselves, something that they find unique and beautiful.  I have asked several of my friends what they like best about themselves and I really want to share their answers.

Jessika:  "My heart."

Charity: "My caring heart."

Michelle: "My drive."

Natalie: "My ability to find humor and to make people laugh."

Barbara: "My love for my children."

Gia: "My lips or my sense humor."

Now I'd like to share what I like best about them.

Jessika:  Jessika has the most gorgeous green eyes I have ever seen.  She also has the most feminine hands... they are beautiful.

Charity:  Charity's smile is infectious.  She is beautiful.

Michelle:  Michelle has gorgeous golden, thick, long hair and beautiful eyes.

Natalie:  This woman is remarkable.  She has dark brown hair, green eyes, and an ear to ear smile.  She is breathtaking! (She reminds me of Snow White.)

Barbara:  This woman looks about ten years younger than she actually is.  She has natural red hair and sea blue eyes- a true Irish beauty.

Gia:  Gia is stunning.  I'm talking 1920's Gatsby stunning or 1940's Lauren Bacall stunning.  She has an exotic, sexy look.

Of all of the women that I asked, only one said a physical attribute first and that was Gia complimenting her lips.  I easily listed several things about each woman (and could continue without a problem if you wanted to read a longer blog) yet they did not say one thing about themselves.  Why?  Are we trained to be humble?  Are we not allowed to be proud or confident?

If so, who the hell says?  Who made the rules?  Better question yet, how do we break this cycle?

If you haven't already, please watch Dove's body perception video.  I am so glad to have found it and am posting it here.  Enjoy.

Dove Body Artist


  1. Found you through the Thursday favorite things blog hop and I absolutely love this post. I feel the same way about the way we tend to see ourselves these days. I also looooove the dove video, I too have it posted on my blog. :)

    Sarah xo

  2. I agree, wholeheartedly...we've been brain-washed to see the least of ourselves.

  3. I watched the dove body artist a few times and shared it with my daughters.

    Thanks for stopping by my blog.

    Bye for now, Darlene