It is so difficult to just learn to trust. Trust your lover. Trust your instincts. Trust yourself.
I really want to grab the hands of so many of you who struggle with self doubt, insecurities, and trust issues and bring you to the happy place that I have found. I want to show you. I want you to feel the wonder that I feel.
Getting to this wonderful place in my life was quite the journey. The trip here was filled with heartache, mistakes, and tears but was worth every one of them.
Ladies, when you look in the mirror and think, "Hmmm... I look really nice today," it is because you do look nice. You look nice all the time and the only one who needs to believe that is you. The truth is, the only person who can convince you that you are beautiful is you. You will never trust the words of your friends, family, or lovers until you trust yourself.
There is not one perfect size, hair color, or facial feature. There are many perfect sizes, hair colors, and facial features. I am a size 18, I have brown hair with natural highlights (and a few greys), a button nose, freckles, and golden brown eyes. Guess what... those features are perfect. They are perfect for me. The only person that I had to convince of this was myself.
Our husbands, wives, and lovers have choices. They always have and they always will and they choose us. Please believe that if your lover tells you that they find you sexy, it is because they do. If they ask to see you naked, they like your body. All of your perfections that you consider imperfections, they are attracted to them. If they ask you to make love with the lights on or take off your top, they like what they see. You are what they want or they wouldn't have made the choice to ask to see your body. They like it.
So go to the bathroom, look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are beautiful, sexy, and worthy because you are the only one left that needs convincing.
I really want to grab the hands of so many of you who struggle with self doubt, insecurities, and trust issues and bring you to the happy place that I have found. I want to show you. I want you to feel the wonder that I feel.
Getting to this wonderful place in my life was quite the journey. The trip here was filled with heartache, mistakes, and tears but was worth every one of them.
Ladies, when you look in the mirror and think, "Hmmm... I look really nice today," it is because you do look nice. You look nice all the time and the only one who needs to believe that is you. The truth is, the only person who can convince you that you are beautiful is you. You will never trust the words of your friends, family, or lovers until you trust yourself.
There is not one perfect size, hair color, or facial feature. There are many perfect sizes, hair colors, and facial features. I am a size 18, I have brown hair with natural highlights (and a few greys), a button nose, freckles, and golden brown eyes. Guess what... those features are perfect. They are perfect for me. The only person that I had to convince of this was myself.
Our husbands, wives, and lovers have choices. They always have and they always will and they choose us. Please believe that if your lover tells you that they find you sexy, it is because they do. If they ask to see you naked, they like your body. All of your perfections that you consider imperfections, they are attracted to them. If they ask you to make love with the lights on or take off your top, they like what they see. You are what they want or they wouldn't have made the choice to ask to see your body. They like it.
So go to the bathroom, look in the mirror, and tell yourself that you are beautiful, sexy, and worthy because you are the only one left that needs convincing.
What we say to ourselves, what we tell ourselves, is what we believe. Challenge that inner, negative, critical voice -- it is not your friend.
ReplyDeleteSo well written and such a great reminder! Thanks for sharing!
ReplyDeleteI wonder if there is a woman alive who was able to come to that place you speak of before, say, 23 or so. I can't imagine ANY teenager being able to muster that kind of self acceptance.
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