Monday, January 28, 2013

The X To My O

I am a quitter- always have been.  I have a slew of halfway complete projects, burned out relationships, and a half written book to prove it.  I don't know if this fault is a casualty of my ADD or if I am attempting to use my ADD as a scapegoat for laziness or sheer boredom.  Hmmm, not sure.  All I know is that I really don't want to quit anymore. 

There are some things that are better off left alone and others that should be fought for, nourished, and repaired.  My marriage is one of the things that I intend to fight for. 

Being away from home for nearly a month now with no end in sight has left me a lot of time to think.  I have been thinking about everything... thinking about our problems, his faults, my faults, and all of the things that brought us together in the first place.

Remember when you were dating and you couldn't wait for the next text message or phone call?  Remember when there were a ton of cute little surprises like lunch delivered to work, your favorite candy left in the mailbox, or a love note left on your windshield wiper? 

How do we let life get in the way?

Bills, kids, arguments over whose turn it is to make the bed, sex, and the remote control... these little things get in the way of what made you fall in love with this person in the first place.  Wedges are created, resentment is built, and the memories that once made you smile are put on the back burner in turn for memories of how angry your spouse can make you.

The truth is, I love my husband very much.  He still is the peanut butter to my chocolate,
the X to my O.  I can't imagine my life without him and I intend to fight for him.

Don't get me wrong, we aren't on the edge of divorce or sleeping in separate rooms.  I just want to get back to basics in our marriage and stop letting life get in the way.

There were a million reasons why I said, "I do" and there are a million reasons why I still say, "I do."

 


19 comments:

  1. So sweet. Good luck with it. You will find a way to stop letting life get in the way.

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  2. I am so glad you are able to fight for your marriage and that you want to. People these days are more likely to just throw it away these days when something gets hard. (My divorce was not me throwing away something that was hard. There was abuse) I admire your perseverance.

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  3. great post.. and yes life seems to get in the way sometimes.. but it is remembering that we are all each others xs and os and fighting for it.. :) You go get your X girl!

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  4. couldn't agree more. awesome post!

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  5. awesome post. I think a lot of people lost sight of what is important and what made them fall in love in the first place and keep dwelling on each other's faults.

    Thanks for dropping by my blog and I'm definitely following you back :)

    http://shoppingobsessionblog.blogspot.com

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  6. i love this post. keep fighting. because if anything is worth fighting for, love and your husband top the list. (:

    adorable layout!

    -alynne
    designedtoloveblog.com

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  7. Hola Sarah!
    As always...amazing post! Thanks for linking up every week with Soul Food Monday, I greatly appreciate it! Loving your new blog design! You go guurl!

    ~SimplyyMayra of
    PonderWonders @ www.simplyymayra.com

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  8. Aww this is a lovely post. So true :)

    Hayley
    http://sparklesandstretchmarks.blogspot.co.uk
    xxx

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  9. Great reminder for all of us! It is just too easy to let the marriage stuff take the back burner.... who has the energy left over on most days? Saying it out loud is the first step to making it happen. Good for you!

    Holly
    http://notdonegrowing.blogspot.com/

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  10. Real love is worth fighting for. Sometimes we need to let the shit go, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. Good luck to you!

    Hugs!

    Valerie

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  11. An infusion of romance will spark it up!

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  12. I agree! Choosing to stay together is important!

    Thanks for stopping by my blog - I'm following you too now!

    Brooke
    silverliningtheblog.com

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  13. It is like life gets in the way of the life you want! Sad but it seems like unfortunately that happens to most people! :( Keep the spark going! :)

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    xo

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